Do your self-beliefs need a make-over?

Remember the first time THAT person said "I believe in you" remember how it felt?   I imagine as you remember, a little smile appears, and so it should, it made you feel good. So my question is "what are your beliefs about yourself? How are you making yourself feel good?

Today I want to very quickly talk about unwanted self-beliefs and how you can change any disempowering beliefs, that have stuck with you over the years. There's a big difference between simple beliefs like, "life is a struggle" and life is what you make it" or "I'm not good enough" and "I can do it if I try hard enough".

Tony Robbins once said "all personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs" and this I genuinely believe in. 

As a coach, I ask my clients to get clear about their beliefs,  remembering they won't all be negative. They will have hundreds of them swirling around, but only a few of them will be shaping the way they live their life.

So to keep this brief here is a little exercise I would love you to find the time to do this week. Now please have fun with it, it is not often we sit and reflect on such things.

1. Take 10/20 minutes to brainstorm all the beliefs you have about everything
2. Write down every belief you can think of no matter how big or how small 
3. Now make two separate lists one for empowering beliefs and one for disempowering beliefs. 
   • The empowering ones are the ones that fuel your life the ones that galvanized you and make things possible 
   • the disempowering ones curtail and restrict you 
4. Underline the three most powerful beliefs in each list. 
   • Notice how much they have affected you in your life and how the negative or disempowering ones have held you back or made you unhappy 
5. Of the 3 negative beliefs ask yourself these questions for each one;
   1. How is this belief ridiculous?
   2. Who did I pick this up from and do I still revere this person as I once did?
   3. What does this belief cost me on a daily basis? (Think what could you have done if this was not swirling around in your head)
   4. What will be the long-term cost if you do not let go of this belief?

Asking these questions will begin to weaken these beliefs. I want to try to get my clients to feel the impact these beliefs have and weaken them even further. From this point I want them to decide to rid themselves of them forever. 

As a coach, these are the ones that I would work with the ones I'll help you to eliminate while strengthening and reinforcing the empowering beliefs and adding fresh ones that support you in your goals

They do this by taking each belief and replacing it with the opposite belief but this is just the start of the process. For example, "I'm too old to get promoted" could be changed to "I have enough experience to do a good job"

This exercise is a great start to changing your beliefs, but as I always say, each journey needs a first step.

This week's tip of the week is as follows: Try to catch any negative beliefs about yourself and repeatedly tell yourself the opposite.

If you can start this process, your world will start to have a brighter outlook.
​Let me know if you need any support.