I hope you enjoyed the long weekend, I imagine everyone was grateful for a little time off from the rigors of work, the stresses of education, or in some cases dealing with the constant call of the little ones all by themselves.
I absolutely love this quote,
"Today I choose to live with gratitude for the love that fills my heart, the peace that rests within my spirit, and the voice of hope that says, all things are possible"- Unknown
There are, in each one of our lives, many things we can be grateful for. Even when times get tougher, if you search your heart you will find reasons to be grateful. it is also true that if you look around you there will be others you are grateful for, at work, at home, or just out and about.
This week I call on you to make an extra special effort to show gratitude when appropriate, it may warm someone's heart, lift someone's spirit and give someone hope. Never forget you have the ability to make someone's day.
My "Tip of the week" for this week is
"Be grateful and take every opportunity to show your gratitude"
Have a great week
I hope you had a restful weekend and are looking forward to a shorter week.
Following on from last Wednesday's email, I thought this week I would share a strength that is a big part of removing interferences.
As coaches, our role is to believe in you and your creativity and resourcefulness to achieve. So as stated in Wednesday's email, focus on improving your performance by growing your potential and by decreasing interference. Self-belief is paramount to removing interferences.
This week's quote is from children's rights activist and a Nobel Peace Prize Laureate Kailash Satyarthi, he rightly states;
“Believe in yourself and you will create miracles.”
So this week, when something comes up that has you doubting yourself, remember this.
Tip of the week
"You have to believe"
and below are just a few examples to support you this week.
Have a great week
You have to believe that your goals can be achieved.
You have to believe in your capacity to make your world and the world a better place.
You have to believe in the people around you.
You have to believe that you can make it through these challenging times.
You have to believe that you deserve blessings.
You have to believe in the voices cheering you on, more than the critics telling you to stop.
You have to believe that you haven’t peaked yet.
You have to believe in the power of persistence.
You have to believe that love is more powerful than hate.
You have to believe that when you work with passion and purpose, remarkable things are possible.
Because the moment you stop believing is the moment you stop progressing.
Last week I had the pleasure of catching up with one of my former colleagues in the education sector in England (I do love the power of zoom).
Anyway, he was recounting a tough day he had earlier in the week and how it had affected the balance of the week which culminated in the chat on Friday.
During the conversation, I was delighted to hear him recite one of my favorite quotes;
“That which does not kill us, makes us stronger.” Friedrich Nietzsche, German philosopher (He, my former colleague, actually used a version stated by 2Pac but I've gone with the original)
This statement is so true and as such had me asking myself, how does it actually make you stronger?
My answer; It was character building?
So this week I decided to share 10 thoughts I found that would help you overcome those difficult days.
Tip of the week: Embrace the challenge of a difficult day
I hope you managed to get some well-deserved rest this weekend. In Britain this weekend, they had the opportunity to show their appreciation for their wonderful and courageous mothers.
This weeks' "Tip of the week" has a link to mothers well, Fathers too.
Picture the feeling your mum had when she found out she was pregnant (or maybe you had) followed by the realization of bringing a child into the world. Uncertainty no doubt was playing a part there, but you both got on with it and I'm sure, did (and still doing) a great job.
Life has a habit of throwing in a few uncertainties now and then, Covid, new boss, redundancy, etc, and I'm certain you have had your fair share. How did you cope, how are you coping? As a coach, I like to share this quote with my clients to get them started with the coping journey.
“Let go of certainty. The opposite isn’t uncertainty. It’s openness, curiosity, and a willingness to embrace paradox, rather than choose upsides. The ultimate challenge is to accept ourselves exactly as we are, but never stop trying to learn and grow.” – Tony Schwartz
As a coach I love this, I often say to my clients that the only way to ever get ahead of uncertainty is to breathe deeply, feel everything you're feeling – and then step into your form of leadership - even if you may be scared and don't feel ready. Actually – especially if you don't feel ready.
I don’t pretend I have all the answers and I’ve been scared many times in my life. But I've learned two important things about fear and uncertainty:
1. Courage isn't the absence of fear. Courage is doing what you need to do, even though you feel scared. And you know you can do scared.
2. The solution to uncertainty isn't actually certainty, it's creativity.
This weeks' Tip,
"Be creative when faced with uncertainty"
Have the courage to Engage in something outside your comfort zone, and watch yourself Develop, Grow and Evolve
You will very likely find uncertainty is an exciting challenge to embrace.
Have a great week and as always, let me know your thoughts.
I hope you had a great weekend
Here I am with this week’s tip of the week or more to the point; tip for the week.
We have all heard the quote:
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” ― Maya Angelou
My question is “how do you practice emotional intelligence (EQ), making people feel great on a day-to-day basis?
The answer is in my "tip of the week", so try to have a go at it this week:
Find opportunities to give someone (maybe a different someone) a lollypop moment every day.
By this I mean, go up to someone who is unsuspecting and tell them they have mattered, do matter, or will matter to you as a friend or to the business.
We have all had someone in our lives that made a positive impact, haven’t we?
If you want to understand this further, try this exercise I did during coach training that helped me with understanding EQ.
Recall someone you loved being with when you were younger, a grandparent, a boss, a teacher any kind of role model. When you were with this person, what did they do that you liked so much? How did you feel around them? Think about the person's attitudes and behaviors.
I can almost guarantee this person listened to you, believed in you, challenged you, trusted, and respected you. Gave you time and full attention and treated you as an equal. More importantly, you very likely felt special, valued, confident, safe, cared for, supported, and around them you believed in yourself. They probably also made things fun to do.
Now I understand that not everyone’s daily activities can be fun, however, we can all make someone feel better about things happening at the moment.
Give someone a lollypop moment, go see them, send a text, email, or a “stick it” note, and tell them how much you appreciate them, for their efforts, something they have achieved, or the fact that you are just happy they are part of your team. Now that is a lollypop moment for them, and they will never forget how you made them feel.
To learn more about Lollypop moments check out this great 6 minute TED talk Lollipop moment
They are great things to do, not just as a leader, but as a good human being who wants to make people feel valued.
Have a great week
This week my tip of the week is to support something that deep down we all at some point suffer from, “a lack of confidence”.
Even the best of us, the most knowledgeable of us, and even the most skillful of us can lose confidence when faced with a new challenge.
When I work with clients, this is a word that is often a stumbling block that will need to be shifted.
Before I state this week’s tip, remember this.
"It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures, new directions to grow in, and new lessons to learn — which is what life is all about."
— Oprah Winfrey,
The basis of my roadmap for helping my clients enhance their confidence is through targeted questions, but the general premise is as follows:
Confidence is linked to being able to quickly assess, learn from and move past failures, to leaning into mastery rather than perfectionism, and to fostering a positive self-perception of our capabilities even when challenged.
I ask them to create inspired actions, which keep in mind that confidence is strongly linked to doing. The best doing is being in action - then learning from the outcomes.
My tip for this week is “Whatever you put your attention on grows”,
This week, consider what you can focus your thinking on to boost your confidence. As a coach I might be looking at the following areas:
Practice, practice, practice, small steps will likely lead to bigger things, and it is these actions that build confidence.
If you would like to have a chat about how to best grow your confidence, drop me an email, I'd be happy to help.
Great, it's Monday morning so here it is. My tip for this week is as follows;
“Value your time. Focus on the big picture”
With so many distractions thrown at us daily, it’s easy to lose sight of the big picture.
If we constantly get distracted by things like social media, emails, and other people’s priorities, we become frustrated and stressed because we’re not attending to our own wants and needs.
To make sure you stay focused on the big picture this week, ask any of the following,
What do I want to accomplish this week?
What might I regret not achieving?
What are my priorities?
Answering these questions gives your day purpose. And when you have a purpose, you’ll be motivated to focus and do everything you can to reach your maximum potential.
At home, with family, or with your studies, these questions when answered will give you a target, an aim, all you need to do is add the commitment.
At work, this may include focusing on the end goal which may be your Performance Management targets. So a little bonus for this week is an opportunity to read my latest article about Performance Management and how coaching may help you achieve your targets. You can download and read the article here.
Achieving your Performance Management targets
This week do something that really matters to you. Don't waste your time on something that has no value. Your time is very precious.
Remember this great quote:
“A man who dares to waste an hour of time has not discovered the value of life.” — Charles Darwin
Have a great week. and when it's time for a coffee, have a read of the article and tell me what you think.
Happy New Year to you and your family
The beginning of the year is a typical time for us to take stock and look at the best bits and the worst bits from the previous year. We try to ascertain what we achieved and look at what we could do better.
My questions are these:
Did you have a goal or even an intention for the year?
Did you achieve what you set out to do?
If so, congratulations on all your successes from 2021; as severe a year as it was, it is good to know there were successes.
My EDGE tip of the week for this week is all about goals. It is about allowing yourself to set goals and then work ridiculously hard to achieve them. Having these goals will put you on the path of living a purpose-driven life. As a coach (and a football fan), I love this quote.
"The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score." –Bill Copeland.
Goals give our lives meaning. Make them challenging, make them enjoyable, but set them. Make personal development goals, career goals, educational goals. We all know that there are things we would like to achieve.
You can even set impossible goals. Remember, what may seem impossible today may not be so in 6 months as you start working towards it. With the right mindset and necessary support, anything is possible.
" A goal is not always meant to be reached; it often serves simply as something to aim at." –Bruce Lee.
So here is EDGE Coaching first tip of 2022 (as it was at the beginning of 2021):
TIP OF THE WEEK: "Create a couple of goals to give your year a real focus; aim high."
If you would like a FREE template to help you create powerful goals, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Let's get this year started with an inspired positive act. Oh, and you still have 2 weeks to take up the coaching offer from my last email.
Have a great week.
We have come very swiftly to the end of another year. I hope you are where you wanted to be and you achieved your goals or intentions for the year?
This email is to say a big thank you so much for being part of my network. I wholeheartedly hope you got some value from my tips and messages throughout the year.
I am delighted to be able to offer you a fantastic opportunity, not only for being part of my network but also, as a thank you for sharing the tips and articles with your friends and colleagues. This has helped my email network grow from 57 when I started to over 180 currently and in 6 different countries. This has given me the opportunity to show more people the power of coaching, which has helped them Engage, Develop, Grow and Evolve in life and in their careers.
As a big thank you for your time and effort in reading these tips of the week and/or articles, I would like to take this opportunity to offer you a 50% discount (subject to terms and conditions) on any coaching contract with me, that you sign up for before January 15th, 2022 using this link.
This is a great opportunity for you to set some meaningful resolutions or goals and have the support to really commit to and achieve throughout 2022 at an affordable rate.
Please, please do not share this with others at this stage as this is specifically for you, for being part of my network.
As always, I would like to leave you with a quote I share to help clients prepare for the new beginnings, it is as apt for life and careers
"A New Year stands before us, like a new chapter in a book waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting some goals". Warren McLaren.
Finally, from me as EDGE Coaching Services
Have a great holiday, I hope you manage to get a good rest.
Warm festive regards
Welcome back. You’ve been missed. Holidays, vacations, Staycations, breaks to watch over the kids, all the things that lead to a break from work coming to an end. Summer is over and already, I know, you’re looking forward to getting back to it.
This week’s tip is about getting back to it, so as usual my quote of the week
“If you put your heart, mind and soul into your work, success will find you wherever you are.!” Sivananda Saraswati: yoga guru and Hindu spiritual teacher
To achieve this, I have 5 questions for you to ask yourself, answer honestly and reflect on what you could achieve this year.
What is the best thing that could happen to you at work this year? (How will you make this happen?)
What gives you the greatest sense of satisfaction at work? (How could you do more of this?)
What is working well for you at work? (how could you use this to progress this year?)
What 5 things are you most proud of at work? (How gave you documented these)
What will you do next, to ensure you are continually learning? (Never stop learning new things)
Use these questions to help you achieve this week’s
“Tip of the week” Make this year, the year
Have a great week
Richie Forde, Performance Coach and the Founder of Edge Coaching Services.