I hope you have had a great weekend and are looking forward to enjoying a productive week.
I am delighted to bring you my "Tip of the Week," and I hope it inspires you to do more to make your week a more positive one in these challenging times. With this message, I have also included some bonus tips to support you and your children during the week.
The growth mindset is wonderful and amazing. People who have the desire and drive to grow are always improving themselves. They love challenging themselves and continually being better than they were yesterday. They always like to be building their knowledge of themselves and the world around them. They often become leaders seeking to help others grow, and they have an outlook that a situation can always be bettered. This is a lovely quote that encapsulates the premise:
"Challenges are what makes life interesting. Overcoming them is what makes life meaningful." -- Joshua Marine
So my tip of the week is "Becoming, is better than being."
Below are 5 tips for you to remember as different situations arrive this week. How many can you use to help you grow?
Bonus tip: Mental health for children and students
If you have children or students to support during home learning, try these:
5 questions you can ask to help them with their mental health.
Have a great week and remember, developing your growth mindset will help you to "become."
I hope you are having a great week, and your happiness and those around you are shining through. (Tip of the week Monday 11th Jan)
When was the last time you taught your child or a student a useful soft skill? Did they even know that was what you were doing? Did they ask, “what is the point of this”? It would not surprise me. As a teacher, I had to field many questions like this; the most common was, “When will I ever use trigonometry in my life?” I must admit, I did not always have an answer to this question unless they wanted to do something scientific or in construction.
But I did when they asked why we learned about soft skills. Today, I will set out my top 3 opportunities all students should be provided to develop their soft skills in preparation for work.
“Soft skills” is a topic that often comes up in my conversations - I must admit I haven’t focused on this nearly enough in the newsletters or previous emails - which has prompted me to share this email with you today because it is crucial.
A great quote in this regard comes from author Peggy Klaus
“Soft skills get little respect, but they will make or break your career.”
The definition explains why this is so:-
“Soft Skills: Personal attributes that enable someone to interact effectively and harmoniously with other people.
The importance of these skills is this: -
“We are preparing students for a successful career.”
I have had students practice a good firm handshake in the past or producing a big smile as a warm welcome when meeting people. When having conversations, encouraging them to hold eye contact and present positive body language were things I used to get them to do during school registration time. I remember the looks I would get when I would ask them to prepare a group presentation to present in the assembly in front of the entire year group!! Pure horror, but they did it and developed organizational skills and got a confidence boost as a side bonus. All in the name of creating opportunities to develop their soft skills. With the world changing and the job market being even more competitive, it is time to step it up.
In the modern workplace, you now need more than technical skills to be successful. Today’s employers seek candidates who can perform their jobs well but who can also fit into the company culture and interact seamlessly with other employees.
Since most jobs require teamwork, or if you work alone where you may need to interact with potential clients, it is crucial to possess soft skills to enhance your chances of success with your chosen field, so let us start thinking ahead. If we as parents or educators get the opportunity, we should be trying to add some of these opportunities to their learnings.
My top 10 opportunities all students should be given to develop their soft skills: -
Students, especially the older ones, can also improve their soft skills by watching others and practicing what they observe.
Working with a professional coach can help individuals or groups develop “soft skills” in readiness for work. If you would like to know more about how EDGE Coaching could help your child or your students with soft skills development, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or visit the website www.edgebarbados.com and use the contact page.
Enjoy the rest of your week and, this week, see if you can help someone else follow their dream too.
I hope your week is getting off to a positive start. To add to it, my “tip of the week” this week is about happiness. If we consider the challenges this world is undergoing now, it can be easy to lose our way and spend too much time focusing on the negatives.
I love this quote that you can scribe on a “stick it note” and then add to your fridge or have it on your desk for the week.
“Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort” Franklin D Roosevelt
This week, it would be great to try and think about how we can boost our happiness and that of others.
Previously I discussed how nice it is to smile at others around you, I have also discussed the “lollipop moment” or random acts of kindness, and they should continue. Incorporated in all of this is happiness, so my tip of the week is this
“Think happy, be happy, smile.”
To support this, here are five more ideas to practice this week to improve your happiness.
1. Be grateful: appreciate everything in your life
2. Be Social (where you can): Spend time with those you care about (even virtually)
3. Be passionate: make time to do what you love doing
4. Relish things: Enjoy the daily pleasures and challenges in life
5. Commit to goals: Have something you are motivated to work towards
If you can commit to practicing some or all these things, I am sure you will end the week with a positive view of your efforts and achievements.
After all, “Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of travelling.”
Have a great week
Happy New Year to you and your family
The beginning of the year is a typical time for us to take stock and look at the best bits and the worst bits from the previous year. We try to ascertain what we achieved and look at what we could do better.
My questions are these: Did you have a goal or even an intention for the year? Did you achieve what you set out to do? If so, congratulations on all your successes from 2020; as severe a year as it was, it is good to know there were successes.
My EDGE tip of the week for this week is all about goals. It is about allowing you to set goals and then work ridiculously hard to achieve them. Having these goals will put you on the path of living a purpose-driven life. As a coach (and a football fan), I love this quote.
"The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score." –Bill Copeland.
Goals give our lives meaning. Make them challenging, make them enjoyable, but set them. Make personal development goals, career goals, educational goals. We all know that there are things we would like to achieve.
You can even set impossible goals. Remember, what may seem impossible today may not be so in 6 months as you start working towards it. With the right mindset and necessary support, anything is possible.
" A goal is not always meant to be reached; it often serves simply as something to aim at." –Bruce Lee.
So here is EDGE Coaching first tip of 2021:
"Create a couple of goals to give your year a real focus; aim high."
If you would like a FREE template to help you create powerful goals, email me at email@example.com
Make your dreams come true and have a happy new year.
hope you are close to finishing work for this year. My tip for this week is simple.
Being kind enough to give yourself a break is the wise thing to do.
Before you plan a busy holiday season, know that you:
So, my tip of the week is simply this.
"Have a rest; you deserve it."
“As important as it is to have a plan for doing work, it is perhaps more important to have a plan for rest, relaxation, self-care, and sleep.”
Have a good rest on the days you can.
I look forward to seeing you in 2021, but for now, a gift.
The gift of love. The gift of peace. The gift of happiness. May all these and more be yours this holiday season.
"It’s not what is under the tree that matters; it’s who’s around it."
We are coming to the holiday season, but I wanted to save the holiday tip for next week. However, this is a period of the year that can be difficult for some.
I mention this because this week, I was working with a client regarding parenting. Their two children are young and, like most children, are susceptible to the season. Life with children and for children is always a roller coaster ride. Understanding that there will be negative aspects to child-rearing and getting some professional advice when necessary will help you maintain your sanity and enjoy the experience.
This can also be the same at work; I love this little quote.
"Your support network is the solid ground from which you can propel yourself upwards"
Even though it was a tip aimed at a parent, I felt it could easily transition to other areas of our lives.
Like in the home; a workplace is also a place where support is something we should all court if we wish to be happy and prosperous, so my tip for this week is
"Don't be afraid to get support if you need it."
This week see if you can practice these things
We are getting to the time of the year where things can get hard, don't be afraid to ask for support if you need it.
Have a great week and follow your dreams
Here is week 2 of my self-coaching emails
Thank you to those who share your goals; I had some interesting questions; I hope your answers were clear and concise enough for you.
Anyway, on to part 2
First, a lovely little quote to get you thinking.
“When the reality is clear, it brings the goals into sharper focus."
As a quick recap, this self-coaching exercise is a great opportunity to implement change ready for the new year. We will work on this together using the GROW model. This is the most widely used model in coaching, and the questions are taken from my coaching questions template, used with some of my clients.
Today's questions are the R in GROW, which stands for reality, pretty much its, where are you now with your goal you wish to achieve and what is driving the need to achieve it.
It could be that by going for a particular goal, other things may change in your world. Answer the questions below, but remember, if you are honest, and the answers are not as you expected, the goal can be changed.
A Self-reflection Exercise: Part 2
Make a note of your answers to these questions.
When looking at your chosen goal:
Take your time; you have a week, return to them periodically, and make changes as necessary. If you have any questions, feel free to reach out. Once again, you do not have to share the answers with me, but I am happy to take a look if you wish.
Best of luck with part 2 of your change journey. You got this.
As we are coming to the holiday season I would like to focus on the meaning of belief. Over the years people have believed in Father Christmas, the Easter Bunny, maybe the moon landing, astrology, Karma, God and for some, aliens. A quick look at one definition states “trust, faith, or confidence in (someone or something)”. If we can find the time and energy to believe in these things, why don’t enough of us believe in ourselves?
Which begs another question, what could you really achieve if you had a truck load of belief in yourself? Just think about this for a minute, what 3 things would you achieve if you have enough belief?
My Tip of the week is this
“in all you do this week, remember you are capable of pretty much anything you are willing to work for”
Believe in yourself and consider this little quote, for it is quite true:
“Always remember, you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think” Christopher Robin
Have a great week and follow your dreams
It is "tip of the week time" again. Sorry, it is a day late, but we had a restful bank holiday today.
Anyway, have you heard this lovely quote?
“A gentle word, a kind look, a good-natured smile can work wonders and accomplish miracles.”– William Hazlitt
It is so true; you can accomplish so much with a smile.
As a form tutor who wanted to improve the students' enjoyment of school, I would challenge my students to smile at as many teachers as possible during the day and see how many smiled back at them. They loved our little secret challenge; we used to talk in tutor time about the different teachers and the impact smiling had on them. Obviously, some teachers thought a couple of the students were acting strange, but it was a worthwhile exercise for the most part. Some even discussed the impact the newly found mindset had on their lessons, which was great.
This brings me to my tip for this week.
“Smile; it makes you and those around you feel better.”
It also makes you more approachable, boosts your mood, relieves stress, and makes you seem more attractive, sociable, and confident.
Just try it for a day, smile whenever someone passes by, comes to see you, or you go to see them. You will very likely receive a positive response. If not, at least you will feel great.
Enjoy the rest of your week and, of course, follow your dreams.
I hope you are having a fabulous week.
In these trying times (for all manner of reasons), we truly must keep going and believe we will come out of them stronger and more learned than before. As a coaching tip, I thought I would share a quote from one of my peers Darren Poke, who writes a fantastic blog.
As coaches, our role is to believe in you and your creativity and resourcefulness to achieve. So essentially, focusing on improving your performance by growing your potential and by decreasing interference. Self-belief is paramount to removing interferences.
Enjoy, and I’ll speak to you soon.
Remember to follow your dreams.
You have to believe
You have to believe that your goals can be achieved.
You have to believe in your capacity to make your world and the world a better place.
You have to believe in the people around you.
You have to believe that you can make it through these challenging times.
You have to believe that you deserve blessings.
You have to believe in the voices cheering you on, more than the critics telling you to stop.
You have to believe that you haven’t peaked yet.
You have to believe in the power of persistence.
You have to believe that love is more powerful than hate.
You have to believe that when you work with passion and purpose, remarkable things are possible.
Because the moment you stop believing, is the moment you stop progressing.